INTERVIEW – Rarely has happiness within a couple formed on M6’s romance program been as palpable as that of the two Marseillais. 77% compatible according to experts, the two thirty-somethings are more in love than ever.
The story between Damien and Pauline in “Married at First Sight” is a sort of modern-day fairy tale. The one who celebrated his 38th birthday on June 11 had been single for two years when he met the attractive nurse in Gibraltar. Their strong and sincere desire to find love, supported by the enthusiasm of their respective families, has transformed their 77% compatibility into a total success. “You don’t need us anymore, everything is going well”reacted to them the expert Estelle Dossin at the end of the assessment. “We are almost on 97%”she added to the attention of her colleague Pascal de Sutter.
LE FIGARO. – What was the trigger for your registration to “Married at first sight”?
Damian. – The years pass and one morning, we wake up alone, we realize that we have lived well, that we have made the most of it, but that we are no longer 25 and that we have not advanced at all in our private life. I registered at the time of the broadcast of season 4 in 2020 on M6, I followed all the casting protocol but the production had not found me a woman sufficiently compatible to establish a meeting and a marriage. I relaunched the show’s teams a year later and, at the same time, my father had taken the initiative to sign me up without telling me. It was quite funny.
Paulina. – I started one evening when I did not feel very well. I was alone at home and the fact of seeing all these beautiful stories in “Married at First Sight” made me want to try my luck. The production contacted me a year after my registration, I was not expecting it at all. My profile has been rescued from the cast of Season 5! (Laughs.) I have a very busy job, I’m alone with my patients, I have little time to go out and a fairly small circle of friends. I didn’t have the opportunity to meet the right person.
Damien, in your portrait, you explain that you idealized the woman of your life too much…
D.- I was looking for the perfect woman, a fashion plate, an ambitious woman with responsibilities… I wanted her to tick all the boxes I had set in my head. I was quite demanding and in all my relationships I always found something wrong. But no one is perfect! In love, it was a bit of a roller coaster: I alternated serious relationships with those without a future. I lived as a couple under the same roof twice and it didn’t last. The first time, I was with someone too jealous and possessive, I left. The second time, I felt like I was cheated.
P.- I had several relationships but none really lasted long. I was with men who didn’t want to commit and, before Damien, I had never lived with anyone. It was a first to share my life with the person I love. I always worked a lot and every person I met, the timing was not good. In the past, I was not well in my skin. I slimmed down, I asserted myself and I’m no longer afraid to say the things I think.
You live a few kilometers from each other, near Vitrolles, do you think you’ve ever met before “Married at first sight”?
P.- We crossed paths, that’s for sure! But without paying attention to each other. I think if we had talked to each other that day, four years ago, maybe it wouldn’t have worked…
D.- We very quickly asked ourselves the question, especially since several of our relatives had already seen each other and talked about it during the ceremony. With Pauline, we had never noticed each other but we know that we had already met on many occasions. Especially when she went to my place of work, to my car dealership to buy her BMW, she had to deal with another adviser. My mother had also already met her since she came to treat patients who live in her street.
Since your meeting in Gibraltar, your love story seems exemplary and without the slightest wave. Did you manage to identify your 23% incompatibility?
D.- It’s true that we can tend to think that 77% compatibility is not enough given the way our relationship works. But we still discovered a lot of differences, especially in terms of certain tastes. We can’t watch TV together because we don’t like the same programs. At least in terms of cinema, I like action and horror films, whereas Pauline does not. She loves living with pets, she has three cats, whereas, although I love animals, I have never had one. And I’m extremely orderly, whereas Pauline is much more measured.
P.- We don’t watch the same series: Damien will like Marvel, science fiction, etc. more. All this I hate! I prefer series like The CartelSpanish or Mexican productions.
Damien, you who are a car sales specialist, how can a new Jaguar break down as it happened to you just after your wedding?
D.- Quite simply because it was not necessary to choose a Jaguar but to take a BMW! (Laughs.) In real life, I’m nicknamed the black cat and the production was able to realize this during filming. Even a new car cannot resist it. But I was in a state of mind where I wanted to do everything to make it work and make my wife feel the best she could. Our adventures allowed us to take the time to get to know each other better. The first 48 hours, we had to sleep 30 minutes because of all our little adventures.
P.- All these misadventures brought us closer, we took them as a joke, even if we were exhausted at the end. This strengthened our couple, we supported each other without losing our good mood.
How did you envision your meeting, your marriage and your wedding night?
P.- I didn’t want to have negative thoughts. I told myself that we were going to bring me only positive things to live a great experience. Everything I experienced was wonderful. I embarked my whole family on this experience with contagious enthusiasm, everyone was happy. I wanted to let myself be carried away by events without apprehending them. With Damien, we liked each other right away and our respective families too. At the time, I didn’t think I had experienced love at first sight, but seeing the images, it looks a lot like it. We both needed love in our lives.
D.- I had the conviction that the production was going to make me meet someone who would suit me. Even if I hadn’t been charmed at first sight, I would have said yes to marriage. I have too often been focused on the physical with my previous relationships and I wanted to give importance to all the values that allow you to move forward in a life together. Once married, I hoped to be able to kiss my wife after saying yes. As for the wedding night, I asked myself a lot of questions: how would she react if I didn’t do anything, would she think that I didn’t like her? I didn’t plan on not being able to sleep with her, but the most important thing was, no matter what, to respect her wishes. And finally, everything went very well with Pauline, it was idyllic.
Damian, your sister had expressed her doubts on the wedding nightis she now fully reassured?
D.- She was very quickly. You have to understand that our marriage is out of the traditional framework and I think my sister tends to idealize me. She found it unfortunate that I go through this mode of meeting to find the woman of my life, she felt that I did not need it. Pauline does not resemble my ex-relations and her first reaction was to think that she did not correspond to me. But she quickly realized that she was wrong.
What was your state of mind at the end of the assessment in front of the experts of “Married at first sight”?
P.- Thinking about the future, our first project is the purchase of a joint house. We kept our enthusiasm. And there’s a baby project…
D.- Our first desire is to find a home, a shared accommodation. At that time, we each have our accommodation and we either go to one or the other. Finally, especially at Pauline’s because it was more practical in terms of our business. And the logical consequence of our marriage is to start a family. Without any pressure from our loved ones, we have the common desire to have children.